Comments on: Disassociating Myself From the Ezzos and GFI http://www.chewymom.com/disassociating-myself-from-the-ezzos-and-gfi/ Just another WordPress weblog Fri, 12 Mar 2010 15:00:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Beware of Babywise « Natural Christian Parenting http://www.chewymom.com/disassociating-myself-from-the-ezzos-and-gfi/#comment-88851 Beware of Babywise « Natural Christian Parenting Sat, 08 Mar 2008 23:12:14 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=29#comment-88851 [...] Blog of former Ezzo Contact Mom [...] [...] Blog of former Ezzo Contact Mom [...]

]]> By: Lyn http://www.chewymom.com/disassociating-myself-from-the-ezzos-and-gfi/#comment-69 Lyn Sat, 20 Aug 2005 19:46:31 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=29#comment-69 This brought tears to my eyes! I have to admit: I have never owned or read any thing Ezzo. But I do know people who like some of what is in Babywise. I hope someday they stumble across what you have to say about it. Happy-in-my-freedom-to-raise-my-kiddos-how-God-tells-me-to! Lyn This brought tears to my eyes! I have to admit: I have never owned or read any thing Ezzo. But I do know people who like some of what is in Babywise. I hope someday they stumble across what you have to say about it.

Happy-in-my-freedom-to-raise-my-kiddos-how-God-tells-me-to!
Lyn

]]> By: Keer http://www.chewymom.com/disassociating-myself-from-the-ezzos-and-gfi/#comment-67 Keer Sat, 20 Aug 2005 08:19:28 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=29#comment-67 Hee hee. :-D The funny thing is...I don't think I've ever gone to a church where they even know who Gary Ezzo IS. (Well, except when I went to Lance Quinn's church for a while...I know HE knows who Gary is since Gary was his assistant at GCC LOL!) In most of the churches I've gone to the parents are parenting straight out of Parenting Magazine and stuff like that. OK gonna stop before I start to rant about the churches we have ended up at.... Hee hee. :-D

The funny thing is…I don’t think I’ve ever gone to a church where they even know who Gary Ezzo IS. (Well, except when I went to Lance Quinn’s church for a while…I know HE knows who Gary is since Gary was his assistant at GCC LOL!) In most of the churches I’ve gone to the parents are parenting straight out of Parenting Magazine and stuff like that.

OK gonna stop before I start to rant about the churches we have ended up at….

]]> By: TulipGirl http://www.chewymom.com/disassociating-myself-from-the-ezzos-and-gfi/#comment-66 TulipGirl Sat, 20 Aug 2005 04:25:29 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=29#comment-66 <i>"I really struggled with telling my on-line Ezzo friends. I knew how things went with those as heavily entrenched in GFI as I had become. I would have no further contact with those on-line friends."</i> After the Forum closed, after awhile I became part of the Yahoo Group. I "knew" the mamas there for so long that I really hesitated to let them know how un-Ezzoish we had become. I didn't want to lose the mothering-support I'd had, from people I had known for so long. When I finally finished writing <a href="http://ezzo.info/Voices/failed.htm" rel="nofollow">Confessions. . .</a>, I sent it to the list (on which is wasn't published) as well as to everyone I corresponded with privately, including Anne Marie. I was rejected. People said that I must not have understood the principles. Or I was too legalistic. One of the couples that first introduced us to the materials wrote a scathing e-mail, including some comments about Hubby keeping me in a burkha. When we went back to visit the church that had been our home church (Ezzo'd) years ago, I was nursing #4. In a sling. And it was made very clear that nursing infants were NOT welcome in the church service. (And there was no way I was leaving my 4 week old in the nursery.) I visited the Growing Moms group that I had been a part of, and had a very lukewarm reception. But you know what? I understand. In those circles, the "parenting philosophy" is so much entrenched in our personal identity. Of course when I rejected that "philosophy" these friends felt like I was rejecting them. By judging it to be harmful for my family (and not good in general) they were feeling judgement from me--even though I was not judging them in reality. So, of course sharing that I wasn't pro-Ezzo anymore wasn't met with warmth and open arms. Just rambling now. . . It's funny how these things seem to come up, long after they've been laid to rest. . . “I really struggled with telling my on-line Ezzo friends. I knew how things went with those as heavily entrenched in GFI as I had become. I would have no further contact with those on-line friends.”

After the Forum closed, after awhile I became part of the Yahoo Group. I “knew” the mamas there for so long that I really hesitated to let them know how un-Ezzoish we had become. I didn’t want to lose the mothering-support I’d had, from people I had known for so long.

When I finally finished writing Confessions. . ., I sent it to the list (on which is wasn’t published) as well as to everyone I corresponded with privately, including Anne Marie. I was rejected. People said that I must not have understood the principles. Or I was too legalistic. One of the couples that first introduced us to the materials wrote a scathing e-mail, including some comments about Hubby keeping me in a burkha.

When we went back to visit the church that had been our home church (Ezzo’d) years ago, I was nursing #4. In a sling. And it was made very clear that nursing infants were NOT welcome in the church service. (And there was no way I was leaving my 4 week old in the nursery.) I visited the Growing Moms group that I had been a part of, and had a very lukewarm reception.

But you know what? I understand. In those circles, the “parenting philosophy” is so much entrenched in our personal identity. Of course when I rejected that “philosophy” these friends felt like I was rejecting them. By judging it to be harmful for my family (and not good in general) they were feeling judgement from me–even though I was not judging them in reality. So, of course sharing that I wasn’t pro-Ezzo anymore wasn’t met with warmth and open arms.

Just rambling now. . . It’s funny how these things seem to come up, long after they’ve been laid to rest. . .

]]> By: TulipGirl http://www.chewymom.com/disassociating-myself-from-the-ezzos-and-gfi/#comment-64 TulipGirl Sat, 20 Aug 2005 03:40:47 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=29#comment-64 Isn't it funny seeing several of us, in an altogether different venue? Btw, CM. . . I want you to know that when the GFI Forums were open, I got MUCH encouragement and mommy-inspiration from the CMs there, including you. *grin* And even though I look back at my Ezzo days and wonder, "What was I thinking?!?!" I still do appreciate the encouragement I rec'd from many of my Ezzo friends. Isn’t it funny seeing several of us, in an altogether different venue?

Btw, CM. . . I want you to know that when the GFI Forums were open, I got MUCH encouragement and mommy-inspiration from the CMs there, including you. *grin* And even though I look back at my Ezzo days and wonder, “What was I thinking?!?!” I still do appreciate the encouragement I rec’d from many of my Ezzo friends.

]]> By: chewymom http://www.chewymom.com/disassociating-myself-from-the-ezzos-and-gfi/#comment-63 chewymom Fri, 19 Aug 2005 19:31:08 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=29#comment-63 [DING] That was a bell going off in my head...or was it a lightbulb? Anyway, I just figured out who you are! LOL! Thanks for reading my crazy blog!! CM [DING] That was a bell going off in my head…or was it a lightbulb? Anyway, I just figured out who you are! LOL! Thanks for reading my crazy blog!!

CM

]]> By: Keer http://www.chewymom.com/disassociating-myself-from-the-ezzos-and-gfi/#comment-62 Keer Fri, 19 Aug 2005 19:24:52 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=29#comment-62 I know the forums of which you speak. :-D The breastfeeding loop isn't run by L anymore - in fact she quit when she started working full-time. S&K's mama (whose blog you posted about) and I manage it now. Let me know if you come across anyone who would like to join. It's not necessarily an anti-Ezzo, anti-routine list, but it is geared toward moms who want a routine but want to keep their milk supply at the same time. Had to chuckle about the co-sleeping. Oh how I loathe it. I'm currently doing it because it's easier on dh to do it rather than having a fussing baby all night, but I do NOT wake up thinking fond, cuddly thoughts LOL!!!!! But I know everyone is different. I just don't sleep worth a flip with babies in my bed. (My dh admits that he's the problem LOL! He loves cuddling with them in bed. I would too if I were him and had more than 2 feet of space to sleep in! ;-) ) I know the forums of which you speak. :-D The breastfeeding loop isn’t run by L anymore - in fact she quit when she started working full-time. S&K’s mama (whose blog you posted about) and I manage it now. Let me know if you come across anyone who would like to join. It’s not necessarily an anti-Ezzo, anti-routine list, but it is geared toward moms who want a routine but want to keep their milk supply at the same time.

Had to chuckle about the co-sleeping. Oh how I loathe it. I’m currently doing it because it’s easier on dh to do it rather than having a fussing baby all night, but I do NOT wake up thinking fond, cuddly thoughts LOL!!!!! But I know everyone is different. I just don’t sleep worth a flip with babies in my bed. (My dh admits that he’s the problem LOL! He loves cuddling with them in bed. I would too if I were him and had more than 2 feet of space to sleep in! ;-) )

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