Comments on: Red Flags with GFI http://www.chewymom.com/red-flags-with-gfi/ Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 09 Sep 2010 17:29:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: George chiriboga http://www.chewymom.com/red-flags-with-gfi/#comment-90545 George chiriboga Sat, 21 Aug 2010 14:07:13 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=25#comment-90545 We have to be careful in criticizing what the Ezzos are doing. My wife and I took these classes and they have been so helpful to us and our four year old J. There are so many good things they teach. In regards to being controlling, I want to make sure as a dad that I listen to my wife so that we help our boy to maintain his happy spirit. He is respectful, happy, funny and has grown in his obedience tremendously. I have grown to understand that my J will disobey me once in a while, if not daily, just like I sin against God in a daily basis. However I try to apply my parenting following the same grace I would like to receive from the Father. We have to be careful in criticizing what the Ezzos are doing. My wife and I took these classes and they have been so helpful to us and our four year old J. There are so many good things they teach. In regards to being controlling, I want to make sure as a dad that I listen to my wife so that we help our boy to maintain his happy spirit. He is respectful, happy, funny and has grown in his obedience tremendously. I have grown to understand that my J will disobey me once in a while, if not daily, just like I sin against God in a daily basis. However I try to apply my parenting following the same grace I would like to receive from the Father.

]]> By: Melissa http://www.chewymom.com/red-flags-with-gfi/#comment-73239 Melissa Thu, 03 Jan 2008 05:20:46 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=25#comment-73239 Hi, I am so glad to find your site about ezzos and gkgw. THANK YOU FOR YOUR HONESTY!!! I raised my 1st son his 1st year the babywise way. After he was weaned from the bottle (exactly 1 year) and his pacifier (exactly 8 mo.) we were on a 6 hour night flight. Long story short, it was a brutal night with him screaming and kicking at least 3 or 4 of the entire 6 hour flighty. Nobody could get any sleep and we made the flight miserable for the other passengers. I think that if my son hadn't been trained NOT to be rocked to sleep, NOT to be weaned at exactly 1 year, NOT to be weaned from his pacifier, NOT to be taught that he had an exact schedule with NO flexibility, etc. etc. etc., it would have been a peaceful night. We are now a missionary family and for that and other reasons also Babywise doesn't work for us. Our 2nd daughter almost died after birth and when she came home from NICU, we didn't start Babywise. She fell into her own schedule easier than our first baby, and she also slept through the night the first week she was home. I could go on forever, but to wrap it up, I am glad to see that I am not alone in that the Ezzos advice is not fit for our family. Hi, I am so glad to find your site about ezzos and gkgw. THANK YOU FOR YOUR HONESTY!!! I raised my 1st son his 1st year the babywise way. After he was weaned from the bottle (exactly 1 year) and his pacifier (exactly 8 mo.) we were on a 6 hour night flight. Long story short, it was a brutal night with him screaming and kicking at least 3 or 4 of the entire 6 hour flighty. Nobody could get any sleep and we made the flight miserable for the other passengers. I think that if my son hadn’t been trained NOT to be rocked to sleep, NOT to be weaned at exactly 1 year, NOT to be weaned from his pacifier, NOT to be taught that he had an exact schedule with NO flexibility, etc. etc. etc., it would have been a peaceful night. We are now a missionary family and for that and other reasons also Babywise doesn’t work for us. Our 2nd daughter almost died after birth and when she came home from NICU, we didn’t start Babywise. She fell into her own schedule easier than our first baby, and she also slept through the night the first week she was home. I could go on forever, but to wrap it up, I am glad to see that I am not alone in that the Ezzos advice is not fit for our family.

]]> By: Dawn http://www.chewymom.com/red-flags-with-gfi/#comment-73180 Dawn Wed, 02 Jan 2008 21:51:20 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=25#comment-73180 My oldest is 9yo now, and we went through Prep and Toddler programs with her (just the materials, not the classes). I could share my "sob story", but I'll spare you, as it's so clear you can relate. I wanted to comment on the "decision making" issue. Both my daughters struggle with making simple decisions, but in particular my oldest. Not to long ago, the grandparents told my husband that she can't even decide what cereal to have without Mommy. I thought it was a good thing. SIGH. We are continuing to work on this today. She can't even take her sweater off without asking me and I have to remind her often that they are things she does not need to ask first on. And this isn't the only "fallout" from the GFI stuff - there's also the lack of bonding we did that I now believe affects our relationship now (and yes, I struggle with that too since I was so convinced for so long that "bonding" was psychobabble. SIGH again). Anyhow, believe it or not, I hadn't realized that this "decision making problem" was connected to the GFI stuff until reading your post or that other GFIers experienced this. It's both a revelation and a comfort to me that this is not unique with us. I'll continue reading your posts on this in hopes I can glean some thoughts and wisdom on how to work with this issue further. Thanks so much for this information. Dawn My oldest is 9yo now, and we went through Prep and Toddler programs with her (just the materials, not the classes). I could share my “sob story”, but I’ll spare you, as it’s so clear you can relate.

I wanted to comment on the “decision making” issue. Both my daughters struggle with making simple decisions, but in particular my oldest. Not to long ago, the grandparents told my husband that she can’t even decide what cereal to have without Mommy. I thought it was a good thing. SIGH. We are continuing to work on this today. She can’t even take her sweater off without asking me and I have to remind her often that they are things she does not need to ask first on. And this isn’t the only “fallout” from the GFI stuff - there’s also the lack of bonding we did that I now believe affects our relationship now (and yes, I struggle with that too since I was so convinced for so long that “bonding” was psychobabble. SIGH again).

Anyhow, believe it or not, I hadn’t realized that this “decision making problem” was connected to the GFI stuff until reading your post or that other GFIers experienced this. It’s both a revelation and a comfort to me that this is not unique with us. I’ll continue reading your posts on this in hopes I can glean some thoughts and wisdom on how to work with this issue further.

Thanks so much for this information.

Dawn

]]> By: Chewymom » Blog Archive » How I got involved with GFI http://www.chewymom.com/red-flags-with-gfi/#comment-69294 Chewymom » Blog Archive » How I got involved with GFI Tue, 18 Dec 2007 23:06:38 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=25#comment-69294 [...] Stay tuned for: The Toddler years and losing my supply with DS10 Becoming a Contact Mom for GFI Red flags Disassociating from the Ezzos How I parent now [...] [...] Stay tuned for: The Toddler years and losing my supply with DS10 Becoming a Contact Mom for GFI Red flags Disassociating from the Ezzos How I parent now [...]

]]> By: Chewymom » My parenting, post-GFI http://www.chewymom.com/red-flags-with-gfi/#comment-74 Chewymom » My parenting, post-GFI Sun, 21 Aug 2005 19:13:05 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=25#comment-74 [...] Part 6 in my series on GFI For parts 1-5, please see: How I Got Involved with GFI Why I Loved GFI Becoming a Contact Mom for GFI Red Flags with GFI Disassociating Myself from the Ezzos and GFI I have tried to write this blog several times, and it keeps getting jumbled up. I think I am going to just make a list and see how that goes: [...] [...] Part 6 in my series on GFI For parts 1-5, please see: How I Got Involved with GFI Why I Loved GFI Becoming a Contact Mom for GFI Red Flags with GFI Disassociating Myself from the Ezzos and GFI I have tried to write this blog several times, and it keeps getting jumbled up. I think I am going to just make a list and see how that goes: [...]

]]> By: Chewymom » Disassociating Myself From the Ezzos and GFI http://www.chewymom.com/red-flags-with-gfi/#comment-58 Chewymom » Disassociating Myself From the Ezzos and GFI Fri, 19 Aug 2005 16:46:58 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=25#comment-58 [...] Part 5 of my series on GFI For parts 1-4 please see: How I Got Involved with GFI Why I Loved GFI Becoming a Contact Mom for GFI Red Flags with GFI [...] [...] Part 5 of my series on GFI For parts 1-4 please see: How I Got Involved with GFI Why I Loved GFI Becoming a Contact Mom for GFI Red Flags with GFI [...]

]]> By: jasmine http://www.chewymom.com/red-flags-with-gfi/#comment-55 jasmine Fri, 19 Aug 2005 13:42:20 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=25#comment-55 I also want to thank you for sharing your story. It is very important for people (especially new parents) to read first had accounts of what GFI really is and does. I took the classes, 10 years ago, even before I had children and it did not sit well with me but I know not everyone sees the harm right away when they are looking to raise respectful, obedient children. Your point about control taking away a child's ability to make decisions was excellent and needs to be heard. Off to add you to my blogroll : ) I also want to thank you for sharing your story. It is very important for people (especially new parents) to read first had accounts of what GFI really is and does.
I took the classes, 10 years ago, even before I had children and it did not sit well with me but I know not everyone sees the harm right away when they are looking to raise respectful, obedient children.
Your point about control taking away a child’s ability to make decisions was excellent and needs to be heard.
Off to add you to my blogroll : )

]]> By: Yellow Rose Mom http://www.chewymom.com/red-flags-with-gfi/#comment-54 Yellow Rose Mom Fri, 19 Aug 2005 02:22:40 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=25#comment-54 WOW! Thank you so much for sharing ALL of this.... it's very helpful. WOW! Thank you so much for sharing ALL of this…. it’s very helpful.

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.chewymom.com/red-flags-with-gfi/#comment-49 Rebecca Thu, 18 Aug 2005 17:02:39 +0000 http://www.chewymom.com/?p=25#comment-49 Wow. I found your blog through some links from other blogs, and have really been enjoying the recent posts, especially about lobotomies, coffee, etc. What has most impressed me, of course, is your brutally honest story about your journey through Ezzoism. It takes courage to write about yourself with such candor. I'm eagerly awaiting all your future installments. Much of this is like a trip down memory lane for me. Who would have thought, back then... Wow. I found your blog through some links from other blogs, and have really been enjoying the recent posts, especially about lobotomies, coffee, etc.

What has most impressed me, of course, is your brutally honest story about your journey through Ezzoism. It takes courage to write about yourself with such candor.

I’m eagerly awaiting all your future installments.

Much of this is like a trip down memory lane for me. Who would have thought, back then…

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