If you’re a mom (and you’re here, so I’d bet that you are) you are probably stressed, pressed for time, and running in a thousand directions at once. And maybe the idea of mediating is as foreign to you as Mandarin Chinese does to me. Well, I’ve figured out the secret . . .
Meditation can take place anywhere, in any position, doing any task, for any length of time. The opportunities to deepen your spiritual being and mind.
The truth is meditating is a personal journey and no one needs to really tell you how to do it. The idea is to “get” what you’re supposed to get out of it and get to it. Sounds confusing? It’s not. Well yes and no.
Benefits of Meditation for Moms
The whole reason for this post is to let stressed mamas who are just getting started in meditation that there is really no wrong way to do this. It’s a practice that only you benefit from. And lets face it moms, we need it more than most! So, in case you are one of those moms I just wanted to say, I am here for you and I promise if you put these techniques to use your life will lift up like you’ve never imagined!!!
The moment of clarity for me was when I learned how to sit. It’s really easy to forget that things that are oh-so-good for us are so simple it almost seems like a waste of time. But, simply sitting down with your breath and yes, your thoughts too, is a task that will expand your mind and make everything in your life better.
With meditation you will experience
- a truly happier way of life no matter what your day brings
- strength through life’s toughest moments (and those are many for moms)
- a calmer way to resolve your stressful situation
- a wonderful new understanding of your children and people around you
- better relationships with your family, friends, and yes, even strangers
- a deeper way to listen
- a relief of your darkest fears
- a new way to understand yourself
It’s a work in progress, as is everything in life, but when you apply this mental exercise to your daily routine you’ll are truly in for an incredible, life-altering experience that not only you will benefit from for the rest of your life, but so will the ones you love as well as the ones you’ve never met and never will.
And while this post isn’t exactly on the ‘how-to’s” of meditation these are a few of the most powerful things that helped me take my meditation to the next level. Ready for some powerful tips to help make your meditation more powerful and meaningful? Techniques to remember as you sit down to your practice:
Four-to-7 Breathing Techniques
There are a few variations of the technique out there. This one, in particular, talks about an inhale of 4 seconds, pause, and exhale for 7. If it’s hard for you to remember exactly how many seconds for the in and out breath don’t stress. The main thing to remember is: breathe out longer than breathing in as if you’re cleaning out everything negative or non-serving out of your system. Also, if you remember, pause between inhales and exhales to help your body oxygenate even better.
Count Your Breaths
Sometimes mediation seems to take us on a journey of hopping from one thought (say, planning dinner) to the next (did you forget to schedule that appointment?) and that’s okay. Really! The thoughts will be there. You are a living thing and there really isn’t much you can do about those pesky thoughts. We are just made that way. Instead of trying the impossible (not think) simply count your breaths at each exhale. Once you get to 10 start over. You’ll be surprised at the trickiness of this simple task.
Thinking is Okay
As I’ve said before, we cannot just stop thinking. Thoughts will come. I struggled with this for so long thinking that I”ll never get this meditation thing done because I have way too many things to think about, remember, and carry out. Turns out this is okay.
Thoughts are part of the human experience and thats a good thing. A great thing to remember is to simply observe your thoughts as a separate thing from you and note how those thoughts make your physical being feel.
Don’t hold onto the thoughts just observe them and let them fade. Now, focus on the breath again. Find it. Oh, look another thought. Warm and fuzzy. Okay, buy warm and fuzzy. Breath . . . like that.
I know, I know. Sometimes this is easier said than done. The video, from the awesome folks over at Headspace, really helped me understand and apply this technique to my mediation practice successfully.
This might seem silly to some folks out there but, wow, this helped my meditation immensely!!! Here’s how you do it. In your practice as you are sitting think yo yourself, “I am breathing. I am breathing. I am breathing.” Hear an unexpected sound? “Hearing, hearing, hearing.” This way, even if the thoughts come just be the observer of your own mind as they come without overstaying their welcome, like the cars in the previous video on changing your perspective on meditation and in particular thinking while meditating.
Final Thoughts . . .
I’ll leave you with a glimpse of hope that meditation really, really does work in improving your life in ways that other ways can’t seem to really reach. Food makes us happy for a moment. Family is love one minute and fighting the next. Movies, workouts, partying. All those things are passing. All those things are changing. Everything is. So the happiness attached to certain things can hurt us. Happiness comes from within. And meditation is the way to get it out.
The wonderful thing is that it really doesn’t take much. Take me. I mediate 5 or six times a week with sessions lasting anywhere from 5 to 25 minutes (whichever life allows). Powering through my stubborn ways and actually sticking with the practice ongoing for a few weeks now and I cannot describe how amazing my mental transformation has been. To think, just a few minutes a day can really plant the seeds of happiness for myself and everyone and everything around me.
There is no wrong way. There is no set or wrong time. There is only your way, your time, your practice. Your way. You just have to start. The rest will fall into place.
Until Next Time
Give it a shot and let me know how it’s going. If this post has helped you in any way, I would really love to hear about so don’t forget to leave a comment below the post before you leave. Just as importantly, if you’ve stumbled on this post and you’re a pro on the topic with more tips please, please, please comment below!
Namaste my sweet friends,
Together, they explore the topics of gentle parenting, healthy eating, grateful thinking, yoga bending, nifty hacking, green living, soul searching, and mindfulness practicing.
She has lived many lives. She has seen great beauty and utter darkness. It makes her whole. She is strong and with your presence, support, and love right here, right now ever stronger!!!
Read more about her by visiting the Meet the Bee page or email her right now!
We hope you enjoy the adventures of Chewy & Bossy!