When talking to toddlers Remember Four Important Things
Toddlers are often speaking a familiar yet alien language. At times it seems like we are communicating while at other times we’re backpedaling rapidly. I’ve come across a great post about some great ways to make the communication and bond between you and your toddler meaningful and bountiful. Follow these 4 simple ways to make everyday chatter some of the most important chats you’ll ever have with your little one.
#1 Talk normally
Don’t baby talk your little human. He wants a real conversation. They are striving to learn our language. So use short, concise sentences and words and watch his lexicon explode. This works especially well when you get down on their level. Bossy is certainly much quicker to calm down after an outburst of some sort if I get to her level and look her in the eye.
#2 Turn a negative into a positive
Instead of saying no to a treat tell them when and under what circumstances they can, for example.
Be sure to reward your kids for their attempts at doing good as well as their great accomplishments, and you’ll quickly find that even the most obstinate little minds will fall in line.1
#3 Give them real choices
A good example is, “Would you like this or that? red or blue? eggs or waffles?” Kids feel better about being a part of making a decision of things to be done and this is a great way of making them part of the team.
“Would you like this or that? green or blue? apples or banana?” Kids feel better about being a part of making a decision of things to be done and this is a great way of making them part of the team.
#4 Acknowledge their side
There is nothing like not being understood and yet being told what is goof for us. I definitely don’t appreciate this approach in my daily problem solving. Neither do kids. Take a moment to understand where she is coming from and let them know how you’d feel in a similar situation before you proceed to possible solutions or lessons.
By responding with patience, empathy and understanding, you can encourage your kids to learn self control, build self-confidence, do better in school and get along with others.2